THE IMPACT OF AN INVESTIGATION INTO THE PROBLEMS AND PROSPECTS OF RUNNING SEPARATE HOMES BY MARRIED COUPLES: A STUDY OF ORUMBA SOUTH LGA OF ANAMBRA STATE
The main involvement of the study was an investigation into the problems and prospect of running separate homes by married couples in Orumba South Local Government Area of Anambra State. Specifically, the study intends to find out the causes of running the home separately by married couples in Orumba South Local Government Area. The possible problems involved in running separately homes by married couples. The effects of running homes separate by married couples. The sample for the study were randomly selected to cover the fifteen (15) towns in Orumba South Local Government Area. The data collected was through questionnaire. Frequency and mean were used to analyze the data. The finding revealed that some causes of running separate homes by married couples are: the nature of job/occupation, socio-economic reasons and some couples are more inclined to their jobs than living together. While problems associated with running separate homes by married couples are financial problems, communication gap and suspicion\ unfaithfulness. It was observed that inability to achieve cardinal objectives of marriage. Unnecessary expenses and emotional intemperate are effects of running separate homes by married couples while woman especially are less busy, determination of married love strengthened and children reared under family that is run separately are hard working and competent enough as its prospects. The following recommendation was drawn, couples should endeavour to keep family intact for judiciously use of money for development. Couple should bridge the gag of extra–marital relationship by avoiding extended assistance. Conclusively, running separate homes by married couples constitutes a lot of problems to married couples and thus, is not advisable or encouraging to couples.
1.1 BACKGROUND TO THE STUDY
Family is the oldest human institution in many ways, it is the most basic unit. It is society’s most basic unit. The entire civilization have survived or disappeared depending on whether family life was strong or weak. Before the institution is established, there must be a union of a man and woman, this union is call marriage.
Mba (1980) stated that marriage is the state in which man and woman give themselves to each other in their life together and in procreation and training of offspring’s. The clear and certain knowledge of this institution is obtained only from the ideal of creation as revealed to the people of God in the Old Testament.
Thus, most of us grew up in a firm belief that marriage would it did for our parents, friends and parent tomorrow. Certainly, the moves on the television programmes, the books and magazines we read all had a way of convincing us that marriage would not only solve our problems but would last a life time. Thus, in our society, adult is counted as an active member of the society if he/she is married. In view of this, it is a drama in that everyone becomes an actor or actress and not just a spectator.
This day, things are changing because of rising tide of the powerful new interest in human, generated
by the liberation movement, the life of woman alone, wisdom, divorce and separated are beginning to come in for a lot more attention and recognition today. Today, there are lots of books, articles, drama on the legal and emotional aspect of separation, on the changing status of the working couples, on the financial complexities of widowhood on the challenge of single parenthood and of the single woman’ s level of life. The basic separation of homes is like being faced with the pieces of a complicated jig saw puzzle, and asked to fit then together in a meaningful and satisfying way.
Before now, marriage in African context was being dominated by men folk. The duty of the woman was to cook, keep home and farm, movement for her was restricted. Men who travel to pass does that in groups or in company of leaders. While the man is away, another elder is in the family takes care and control of all the members of the family till the man returns from the journey. That is to say that woman then lives under the care, control and protection of men hence they live behind their husband’s huts.
The emergence of the civilization, education and modern life have lifted the status of the woman in the society, some are stronger than men in the family and in the all capacities expect the naturally endowed powers. Women today take to any job, more about to all part of the world jus as men do. They are neither being controlled nor fear that anything will hinder them. Some women today live better than the men. For many of us, the world outside marriage like looks blank and bewildering. How does families who had been living together feel when they are separated? How does woman cope with the kids? This research is not for the men who wonder how he will leave his family for sometimes to a distance place. This research work will also provide an encouragement and sound advice on attendant problems that emanate from living separately such as emotional and practical issues that faces a couple living apart, love and friendship work and money, daycare and decision making while a husband is away from home.
Arastrong (1974) observed that family man be separated if one is doing a stint in the armed services for example, he many have the kind of job that requires long absence. About of the illness makes it necessary for one to spend sometime in the reasons for a husband absence from home, a gap is created in the life of the family.
1.2 STATEMENT OF THE PROBLEM
Married couples are said to be people strongly united to live together with a cardinal objectives of security, feeding, companionship, education and procreation. These couples according to culture are meant to live together. These days some married couples run separate homes and thus running into problems, divorce, psychological problem flirting and alcoholism.
The above problems have spurred the write to research on the problems and prospects of running separate homes by married couples.
PURPOSE OF THE STUDY
The aim of this study is to examine the problems and prospects of running separate homes by married couples in Orumba South Local Government Area of Anambra State.
Specifically, this study intends to study the following objectives:-
- To find out cause of running the homes separated by married couples in Orumba South Local Government Area?
- To find out the possible problems involved in running separate homes by married couples?
- What are the effects of running homes separately by married couples?
- To find out the likely prospects of running homes separately by married couples.
1.4 SIGNIFICANCE OF THE STUDY
This study ‘will afford a unique opportunity for couples to have an in’ sight of what they are going to experience if they are + going to be involved in running separate homes.
It will strengthen the selection habit of life partner to maintain the validity of certificate.
The study will gear populace readers that there is no facts rule that couples should live together and thus should inculcate in them stereo-typing habit of work for effectiveness of their family.
The study will also certify women to the challenges of the society in the educational upbringing of the children bearing in mind that many elites of Nigeria are brought up by either single family or separate family.
The following research questions were postulated to guide the researcher to carry out the problems and prospects of running separate home by married couples in Orumba Local Government Area of Anambra State.
- What are the causes of running homes separately by married couples in Orumba South Local Government Area?
- What are the problems facing couples running separate homes in Orumba South Local Government Area?
- How do living separate homes affect married couples?
- What are the possible prospects in running homes separately by married couples?
1.6 SCOPE AND LIMITATION
The research is focused in the Orumba South Local Government Area.
The researcher was confronted with some obvious constraints. The area of the study was far from the researcher area of residence, hence difficulties in administering and collection of questionnaires.
It was compounded further by the scare financial resources of the researcher.
There was high cost of transportation due to bad road and transportation and difficulties in reaching the area of study.
Time was also too short for the researcher to gather in depth and relevant but necessary information to enhance a detailed report.